“He ruined his life.” Mom made that comment about a lot of people over the years.
It sounded so permanent that it scared me. It also made me wonder what choices were severe enough to ruin a person’s life.
Determined not to make one, I didn’t have sex until we married. I never smoked, cursed very little, and also waited for marriage to drink, even though I didn’t do much of that either.
My husband wasn’t responsible for me turning to bad habits. He just helped me relax a bit, probably because he didn’t know about ruined lives. And really, neither did I. No one I knew seemed to have one, although there were plenty of people who acted perpetually unhappy.
But their unhappiness never seemed based on only one decision.
A friend finally cleared the confusion – she said it in a way that made sense. Her father, in the hospital and not expected to live, asked how he got to where he was – miserable, bitter and friendless.
Here’s her answer.
“All I could tell him was, ‘Dad, it was a series of bad choices.'”
What’s been your experience with choices?
WRite wHere I’m supposed to be – Although it is true, one decision may change our life’s direction, I couldn’t imagine God designing the world so that one decision bankrupted a life forever. However, a series of ones, bad or good, have the potential to break or make us. Choices, choices.
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Zig Ziglar says “Every choice you make has an end result.”