In her caretaking role over the past few years, a friend visibly softened while dealing with her mom’s demands during declining health.
I hated what I witnessed both women going through. Yet, I treasured how acceptance and allowing others closer became a part of my friend’s life. Too exhausted to judge, she set that aside, which made our time together more gentle.
Unfortunately, after her mom died, my friend reverted back and seemed harsher than before.
Pain’s like that. It has a way with us.
It shows no favoritism and leaves no choice but to change. We all feel it and we all choose our responses. We either become bitter or we soften in its aftershock.
I suspect that is one of pain’s purposes, to give us a chance to get better.
Author Hannah Hurnard in her book, Hinds’ Feet on High Places, illustrates poignantly how sorrow and suffering are analogous to joy and peace. Hurnard’s character Much-Afraid learns from her woes and takes an upward journey to high places – the same journey of our lives, when we’re willing.
How do you react to pain?
WRite wHere I’m supposed to be – Since pain is a part of life, let’s make the best of it and let it make us the best we can be.
On the side: Post by artist Kelly Rae Roberts about kindness and softening.